Do your kids have a bedtime? We have LB in bed for approx 7.30-8pm. We are not totally rigid and when we are out she is OK until a little bit later if necessary but we try to aim for around this time so she is not overtired and upset.
What I hate is being made to feel guilty for this. When we visit people and stay over or they stay here and I say I am putting my daughter to bed I am made to feel bad. They make comments like ‘Ahhh its a shame for her’ and ‘Do you still put her to bed really early?’. She goes down in her cot, I leave the room and she falls asleep without a murmur, its not like they witness me trying to force her to sleep and her crying for hours or anything!!
‘She doesn’t look tired to me’ is another one people often say – grrrr I know my baby! I know people are disappointed that they want to spend time with her but surely that’s better than a screaming and stroppy baby who would be fine after an hours nap.
What is the problem? She needs sleep, most of the time she has been dragged around visiting people all day and she is shattered. I am not being cruel by putting her to bed, if she stays up she’ll be cranky and crying.
When she is overtired I feel guilty, I know what she needs is sleep and its my responsibility to let her have that – she doesn’t choose to be out all day with little opportunity to nap. By putting her down for a sleep I am giving her what I know she needs.
I can deal with them making comments to me and let it ride over my head (and just rant here!), but I really worry this will rub off on my daughter as she starts to understand more. She is still a baby and I really don’t want to teach her that going to bed is a ‘bad thing’. I have seen first hand where parents use bed etc as a punishment and their children then argue and complaining about going to bed every night as they are used to it being a negative thing. I really don’t want to get into this.
When I tell her its bed time she gets all excited and rushes upstairs to find her cuddly toy, her dummy and brush her teeth and read a story. Its a lovely time of the evening not something I want her to think she can argue against and try to guilt me into letting her stay up.
Has anyone else experienced this and what did you do?